Times of uncertainty can trigger fear and confusion, but it doesn’t have to. Here, you will find tips that will help move you from fear to acceptance, and from confusion to clarity, as we highlight the abundance of incredible opportunities that can be found in this time of great change, including our newly offered complimentary group coaching sessions.
In speaking with someone, have you ever shouted out an impassioned and cutting retort or belted at them a churlish and icy command? Perhaps you can call to mind an intense experience with your child, neighbour, employee, or spouse. What was it that had you do that? Was it something they had said or didn’t say? Or, perhaps, your reaction was the result of something they had done or failed to do. No matter the cause, I’m going to bank on the fact that you weren’t feeling so great in the moment of your reaction. And once you calmed down and reflected on the situation, you may have noticed that your reaction didn’t land all that well with the other person or people involved. Whether your goal is to repair internal damage, heal damaged relationships, reinforce your resilience, or learn how to better lead and support others, this article offers you a framework that will inform and encourage you at a time when patience seems to be at an all time low and reactions so very automatic.
When is the last time you started fresh? I mean truly, thoughtfully, found the reset button that’s hidden somewhere deep in the nook of your mind and pressed it firmly with the intention to move forward in a new direction? Maybe you tossed that pack of cigarettes in the trash can, or you purged your fridge of processed foods and joined the gym down the street. Or could it be that your goal was more subtle? Maybe you decided that it was high time to be more present; to embody the body that you were blessed with and live life in real time.
No matter the intention, be it part of a long list, or a single ambition, finding the courage to take a leap forward into uncharted territory can be a brooding challenge for us all. For this reason, we often wait for a milestone to arrive before we feel empowered enough to initiate the change. And, now, here we are, possibly the biggest milestone of all is upon us. Welcome to 2020: the age of flying cars and teleportation! What a time to be alive! Okay, okay, so perhaps we’re not quite there yet and these are just futuristic visions I had conjured up as a child, but the point remains, we are officially living in a time when just about anything is possible. From designer bodies, to designer homes, we have the ability to look in the mirror and ask ourselves, does this rump spark joy? And if it doesn’t? Well, what better time than today, the beginning of an era, to do something about it, right?
You’re driving into work with your mind on the proposal that’s neatly tucked away in your bag; the one you stayed up half the night preparing, the one that could have benefited from even just ten more minutes of fine-tuning, had you an ounce more energy. The snow is fiercely blowing, your eyes are red from exhaustion, and the unexpected traffic is causing you to glare resentfully at a clock that is advancing faster than usual. You switch on the radio for some solace and that’s when you hear the most horrifying sound: “Have a holly jolly Christmas; it’s the best time of the year!”
No matter what’s wrong with you, my friend, there’s more right with you than wrong.
This saying makes me laugh! (and you know how I love to laugh ;) But it's SO true! We can get so caught up in what's wrong; with ourselves, at work, with our kids, our marriage, our finances....That we forget to acknowledge all the good.
Have you ever experienced tense moments at work or home when people disagree, over- power, feel intimidated, defend, offend, prove people wrong, prove that they are right, get frustrated or angry and think, say and do things that are hurtful? Yes?!
So have I, and I have definitely contributed to these in different ways. That's why I developed the process below.
We had just finished Day 1 of our Ultimate Leadership Experience session at Le Nordik: a beautiful lodge where our clients come to be really present, to heighten awareness and develop courage and rock their business. At early evening, it was just as beautiful and inviting as it was during the day: the brightness of the wooden floors, reflected the light coming through the large windows.
What if it is this simple… that there are just 5 requirements for you and your team to really feel successful: realize your goals and minimize the anxious, less productive experiences that the volume of work can bring?
Would you honour those requirements?
Here they are:
During holiday season, when I'm on holiday, seeing others on holiday, meeting with people whose people are on holiday, I notice more, and I notice things differently.
- I notice the mind slows down and can be present, more easily.
- That if I pause and breathe, and choose to take in all that's around me, the breeze, the gentle waves, the birds and crickets, the rustling leaves... that I feel really good, deep down in my soul.
- I notice people smile more on holidays.
I admit, I don't really want to minimize conflict. I know conflicts and disagreements are going to happen. You know what I really want? I want to minimize those all-too-familiar anxious feelings that arise in me when I am in conflict. Here's what has helped:
In the midst of disagreement, it is possible to create an environment where blame, shame, guilt and fear are minimized. If we can do this, we can ensure the following: