Times of uncertainty can trigger fear and confusion, but it doesn’t have to. Here, you will find tips that will help move you from fear to acceptance, and from confusion to clarity, as we highlight the abundance of incredible opportunities that can be found in this time of great change, including our newly offered complimentary group coaching sessions.
In speaking with someone, have you ever shouted out an impassioned and cutting retort or belted at them a churlish and icy command? Perhaps you can call to mind an intense experience with your child, neighbour, employee, or spouse. What was it that had you do that? Was it something they had said or didn’t say? Or, perhaps, your reaction was the result of something they had done or failed to do. No matter the cause, I’m going to bank on the fact that you weren’t feeling so great in the moment of your reaction. And once you calmed down and reflected on the situation, you may have noticed that your reaction didn’t land all that well with the other person or people involved. Whether your goal is to repair internal damage, heal damaged relationships, reinforce your resilience, or learn how to better lead and support others, this article offers you a framework that will inform and encourage you at a time when patience seems to be at an all time low and reactions so very automatic.
“It’s not in my job description” is a phrase you’ve probably heard many times as a leader. Whether you’ve asked a team member to cover for someone or take on a last minute assignment, “It’s not in my job description” can be a default response in the workplace.
How do you feel when you hear this? Frustrated? Exhausted? Disappointed?
Getting to a place of understanding and empathizing with your employees when they use this response will help relieve these emotions, and also allow you to communicate and approach them in a more successful way.
A nightmare about work.
A fear-based dream about your place of employment, roles and responsibilities, co-workers, clients and conflicts.
Ex. I had a workmare last night about a Nerf-gun war at work where the Nerf darts were full of truth serum. When I got hit with a Nerf bullet in my back side, I told my boss he was a bosshole!
I woke up before the end of the dream but I was sure I got fired.
Have you ever experienced tense moments at work or home when people disagree, over- power, feel intimidated, defend, offend, prove people wrong, prove that they are right, get frustrated or angry and think, say and do things that are hurtful? Yes?!
So have I, and I have definitely contributed to these in different ways. That's why I developed the process below.
We had just finished Day 1 of our Ultimate Leadership Experience session at Le Nordik: a beautiful lodge where our clients come to be really present, to heighten awareness and develop courage and rock their business. At early evening, it was just as beautiful and inviting as it was during the day: the brightness of the wooden floors, reflected the light coming through the large windows.
What if it is this simple… that there are just 5 requirements for you and your team to really feel successful: realize your goals and minimize the anxious, less productive experiences that the volume of work can bring?
Would you honour those requirements?
Here they are:
During holiday season, when I'm on holiday, seeing others on holiday, meeting with people whose people are on holiday, I notice more, and I notice things differently.
- I notice the mind slows down and can be present, more easily.
- That if I pause and breathe, and choose to take in all that's around me, the breeze, the gentle waves, the birds and crickets, the rustling leaves... that I feel really good, deep down in my soul.
- I notice people smile more on holidays.
The busier we are, our minds get cluttered and we can grow less patient and less focused.
This busy-ness increases the likelihood of being reactive to any stressors - traffic jams, a missed deadline, office/family politics - and less likely to feel happy, productive and effective.