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“It’s Not In My Job Description!” - Resistance in Your Team Members

[fa icon="calendar'] Jan 23, 2019 6:54:58 AM / by Dale Allen posted in Leadership, Confidence, Awareness, mental health, stress, Performance, Engagement, Influence

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“It’s not in my job description” is a phrase you’ve probably heard many times as a leader. Whether you’ve asked a team member to cover for someone or take on a last minute assignment, “It’s not in my job description” can be a default response in the workplace.

How do you feel when you hear this? Frustrated? Exhausted? Disappointed?

Getting to a place of understanding and empathizing with your employees when they use this response will help relieve these emotions, and also allow you to communicate and approach them in a more successful way.

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How to have a drama free holiday and enjoy it the most

[fa icon="calendar'] Dec 18, 2018 10:41:50 PM / by Dale Allen posted in Leadership, Confidence, Wellness, Awareness, mental health, stress

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Got Workmares? (Nightmares about work)

[fa icon="calendar'] Dec 5, 2018 6:00:00 AM / by Dale Allen posted in Leadership, Confidence, Wellness, Awareness, mental health, stress

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Workmare

(n)

  1. A nightmare about work.

  2. A fear-based dream about your place of employment, roles and responsibilities, co-workers, clients and conflicts.

Ex. I had a workmare last night about a Nerf-gun war at work where the Nerf darts were full of truth serum. When I got hit with a Nerf bullet in my back side, I told my boss he was a bosshole!

I woke up before the end of the dream but I was sure I got fired.

 

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How to Recognize Fear and Create Movement in your Organization

[fa icon="calendar'] Nov 12, 2018 6:19:08 PM / by Dale Allen posted in Leadership, Confidence

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Authenticity - Letting Go of ‘Knowing it All”

[fa icon="calendar'] Oct 17, 2018 7:00:00 AM / by Dale Allen posted in Leadership, Confidence

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Ahh there are really great moments-- and other times life can feel overwhelming and stressful.

John, a manager wrote: ”I’m just trying to keep up with the pace and not burn my team out," he explained. "But, I’m struggling. At this level, I need more time to learn about the business and I need more time with my team. I feel as though I am not enough or I am not measuring up and that drives me nuts."

His questioning, wanting, doubting, led me to think about  the challenges of having a wealth of information at our fingertips. Feeling sick? Go see Dr. Google. Missed the news? Check Facebook or Twitter. Want to make news? Social media is crowning citizens as trusted news anchors every moment of the day.

While I spend most days fasting from news, stock quotes and sports' scores, the hottest most seductive news of the day always finds me...even when I am not looking. I recognize that there is a beauty to our information age, yet I can also see how information itself can be a seductive addiction that eats up our time and energy and causes us to compare ourselves to others in fascinating ways.

 

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Do this to reduce anxiety when giving feedback.

[fa icon="calendar'] Oct 3, 2018 1:07:54 AM / by Dale Allen posted in Leadership, Performance, Feedback

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During a recent coaching certification, I had an extraordinary experience practicing methods of giving feedback. Instead of creating thoughts of “you’re not good enough”, we did something different, something magical. We created a space that felt like an adventure. It was like a leadership taste-test. We reviewed the 360 feedback as though we were tasting different desserts. As we went through each bite of feedback, we ‘tasted’ each piece by digesting the words and deciding what it meant to our growth goals and our vision for an inspiring future...and that felt like freedom. Ideas for growth lived where there would normally be feelings of guilt and shame...

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Authentic Teams: How to clear up issues that degrade relationships and performance

[fa icon="calendar'] Sep 20, 2018 12:35:34 AM / by Dale Allen posted in Wellness, mental health, Relationships, Awareness, Leadership

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Have you ever experienced tense moments at work or home when people disagree, over- power, feel intimidated, defend, offend, prove people wrong, prove that they are right, get frustrated or angry and think, say and do things that are hurtful?  Yes?!

So have I, and I have definitely contributed to these in different ways. That's why I developed the process below.


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Authentic Leadership leads to Authentic Teams: What makes you real...

[fa icon="calendar'] Sep 13, 2018 10:05:17 AM / by Dale Allen posted in Wellness, mental health, Relationships, Awareness, Leadership

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We had just finished Day 1 of our Ultimate Leadership Experience session at Le Nordik: a beautiful lodge where our clients come to be really present, to heighten awareness and develop courage and rock their business. At early evening, it was just as beautiful and inviting as it was during the day: the brightness of the wooden floors, reflected the light coming through the large windows.

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Harassment is Real (and you can stop it)

[fa icon="calendar'] May 31, 2018 11:12:14 AM / by Trevor Stevenson posted in Leadership, harassment

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The Harassment is Real

Whether intentional or not, harassment is as perceived by the recipient.

 

So if you are, or think you are, being harrassed, how do you feel?

Nervous? Scared? Frustrated? Depressed? Angry? Stressed? Despondent? All of the above, in any given day?

 

And if you are the “harasser”, how do you feel?

Frustrated? Nervous? Overwhelmed? Stressed? Anxious?

 

So how do either of you, the Harasser or the Harassee, perform when you're experiencing any of these emotions?

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5 Ways to Give Quality Performance Feedback

[fa icon="calendar'] May 8, 2018 7:12:03 AM / by Dale Allen posted in Leadership, Performance, Feedback

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Dislike performance reviews but love giving helpful feedback?

A major challenge with performance reviews is that we feel we are being judged or graded and that gets our defenses up right away.

This 3-blog series is focused on how to have performance conversations that provide helpful feedback and achieve the intended/desired outcomes. (Ex. Reducing anxiety in performance convos; providing valuable insight to the recipient; great questions to ask in 1-1 meetings, etc.)

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