Can your communication improve mental health?

[fa icon="calendar'] Mar 6, 2018 7:11:08 AM / by Dale Allen posted in Confidence, Leadership, Influence, mental health

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Imagine if you were feeling overwhelmed at work:

  • the workload is increasing,
  • you are understaffed,  
  • there are last minute requests,
  • there are behaviours in the office that clash with your values,
  • people around you are stressed…

Do such stressors ever impact your emotional well-being (mental health)?

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How to Reduce Stress or Anxiety in 1 Minute

[fa icon="calendar'] Feb 21, 2018 10:22:51 PM / by Dale Allen posted in Confidence, Leadership, stress

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Looking for a way to keep calm and stay balanced during conflict? Want a simple way to soothe away tension during a stressful work day?  Need a break to refocus your attention?  

Here’s a one-minute breathing exercise that will help. Guaranteed.



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3 Conscious Communication Strategies to Reclaim Your Time

[fa icon="calendar'] Feb 21, 2018 7:00:00 AM / by Dale Allen posted in Confidence, Leadership, Influence

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Let’s control our energy and how we experience the time we use.



  • To remove the guilt and anxiousness associated with time pressure
  • To raise awareness of how you can better enjoy the time you have
  • To shift perspective, the LENS you currently look through, regarding your time use
  • To practice a more conscious way of feeling more productive


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How to Overcome Resistance with the PRISE Model Questionnaire

[fa icon="calendar'] Feb 5, 2018 9:45:23 AM / by Trevor Stevenson posted in Confidence, Leadership, Influence

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Could having a model to guide your communication - that minimizes threat reactions (like fear and resistance) and maximizes openness, approachability and engagement - be helpful to you and your team?


Over centuries, we (humans:) have had deep urges to discover the ‘truth’ about how life actually works: what motivates us, what inspires us, what scares us, and most importantly why we behave the way we do.

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Minimize Conflict and Disagreement Blues by Deepening Your Awareness

[fa icon="calendar'] Feb 2, 2018 7:00:00 AM / by Dale Allen posted in Conflict, Confidence, Relationships

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I admit, I don't really want to minimize conflict. I know conflicts and disagreements are going to happen. You know what I really want? I want to minimize those all-too-familiar anxious feelings that arise in me when I am in conflict. Here's what has helped:

In the midst of disagreement, it is possible to create an environment where  blame, shame, guilt and fear are minimized. If we can do this, we can ensure the following:

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How to Work with Resistance

[fa icon="calendar'] Feb 1, 2018 11:20:07 PM / by Dale Allen posted in Confidence, Leadership, Influence

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Change, conflict, stress and overwhelm can all lead to resistance...

… and resistance is one of the most challenging leadership issues you will experience. It clouds over the actual goals, intentions and priorities, making it challenging for your team members, clients and colleagues to progress.

But have you noticed that when you try to push back against someone’s resistance, you often make it stronger? And this creates a cycle of fear and reluctance that hinders your ability to help team members perform well.

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Raise a Little Hell To Get What You Want

[fa icon="calendar'] Nov 24, 2017 9:37:00 AM / by Trevor Stevenson posted in Confidence, Leadership, Influence

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Most everyone we coach thinks that their experience is different from everyone else's. And they’re right.  There’s no one with the exact same reactions as you. This is your  fingerprint. Your snowflake.

That’s also what makes us all the same! We all react to and are stressed by thoughts and situations every day. And when you slow down to think about it, the triggers are often very similar.
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3 Steps to Manage Feeling Stretched and Stressed

[fa icon="calendar'] Oct 4, 2017 7:00:00 AM / by Trevor Stevenson posted in Confidence, Leadership, Influence

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Have you ever felt stretched and stressed? Of course you have, as we all experience these responses in our life. Fortunately, we have some control over the feeling of being stretched…and thankfully we have TOTAL control over feeling stressed.

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The Call for a Personal Mastery

[fa icon="calendar'] Aug 2, 2017 7:00:00 AM / by Dale Allen posted in Confidence, Influence

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The Puzzle


Personal mastery is a matter of slowly adding pieces to the puzzle. There will always be questions, but if you adhere to the pillars of conscious communication, your answers will become better and more healthy. For example, consider the following:


  • How empathic should we be in the midst of a disagreement?
  • What is the caring thing to say when a tense subject is raised in difficult circumstances?
  • How can we respond empathically when someone angrily attacks us?
  • And if we want our children to refrain from violence and confrontation, how specifically should we guide them to respond when they find themselves faced with the same?
  • Furthermore, and just as importantly, how can we share our joys and hopes in ways that foster compassion?
  • And lastly, if you think that care and compassion has no place in the workplace, please ask yourself what you are afraid of.
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Are you spinning?

[fa icon="calendar'] Jul 26, 2017 7:00:00 AM / by Trevor Stevenson posted in Conflict, Confidence, Leadership, Relationships

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As we work with leaders in various roles and types of organizations, one theme that we encounter across the leadership landscape is guilt. Leaders are often trapped by feelings of guilt. You can likely relate to experiences like this:


  • You need to talk to a staff member about missing too much time at work, but you feel guilty because you know the staff member is going through a difficult time at home.
  • You must address a performance issue with a team member who is failing to complete a project on time, but you think that you are at least partly to blame for not providing enough oversight and follow-up.
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