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3 Conscious Communication Strategies to Reclaim Your Time

[fa icon="calendar'] Feb 21, 2018 7:00:00 AM / by Dale Allen posted in Confidence, Leadership, Influence

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Let’s control our energy and how we experience the time we use.

 

Purpose

 

  • To remove the guilt and anxiousness associated with time pressure
  • To raise awareness of how you can better enjoy the time you have
  • To shift perspective, the LENS you currently look through, regarding your time use
  • To practice a more conscious way of feeling more productive

 

Innerwork

 

When it comes to how you use your time, shift from time management to energy management by listening to your inner voice that might be feeling anxious and fragmented by all the to-dos. Adjust your lens to align with the reality of what you can control and learn a language to quiet that inner voice and prevent it from fuelling anxiety and frantic ways of working and leading.

 

  • Conscious communication is a beautiful way to manage your energy
  • Listen to the narrative of your inner voice during these times of stress
  • Learn from what you hear
  • Use a language to adjust your inner critic's thoughts to reduce the emotional reactions and perception of being time poor

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Workplace Stress: 4 Ways to Stress Reduction

[fa icon="calendar'] Feb 7, 2018 7:00:00 AM / by Trevor Stevenson posted in Conflict, Leadership

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Workplace stress is an occupational hazard at any position and in any organization. However, there are a number of ways to reduce workplace stress. Let’s look at a few reasons to  reduce stress, and some ways that you can create a healthier, happier workplace.

Stress acts as a barrier to productivity, health and happiness. Prolonged stress takes a toll on our bodies, our minds, and our work – and as with many physical reactions, it all starts with the brain.

 

What happens in your brain when you’re stressed?

A stress response involves the release of “stress hormones” such as adrenaline and cortisol into the blood stream. These hormones help the body adjust to and escape from threatening situations with effects like increased blood flow, improved respiration, and quicker instinctual reaction. However, other important functions, such as digestion, memory and executive function are partially or completely shut down. In other words, stress response will help us flee a burning building or outrun a tiger, but prolonged stress will be negative when it comes to responding to mountains of emails,  tight deadlines or conflict. The negative effect of chronic stress hormones will take a toll on your health.

 

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How to Overcome Resistance with the PRISE Model Questionnaire

[fa icon="calendar'] Feb 5, 2018 9:45:23 AM / by Trevor Stevenson posted in Confidence, Leadership, Influence

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Minimize Conflict and Disagreement Blues by Deepening Your Awareness

[fa icon="calendar'] Feb 2, 2018 7:00:00 AM / by Dale Allen posted in Conflict, Confidence, Relationships

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I admit, I don't really want to minimize conflict. I know conflicts and disagreements are going to happen. You know what I really want? I want to minimize those all-too-familiar anxious feelings that arise in me when I am in conflict. Here's what has helped:

In the midst of disagreement, it is possible to create an environment where  blame, shame, guilt and fear are minimized. If we can do this, we can ensure the following:

 

  • Flow of conversation is maintained
  • Defensiveness is minimized (yours and theirs)
  • Power is shared
  • Hearts and minds stay open
  • Everyone ‘feels’ heard
  • Others have a desire to contribute to our needs
  • Our needs are met, at less cost
  • We attend to the work or what we want to accomplish

 

How can we do this? We can do this by deepening our awareness. What is blocking you from creating an agreement with those who don’t see your point of view? It is time to raise your consciousness about how your internal conversations are leading you to view things in a certain way. How do you communicate in a way that fosters agreement, understanding, listening, honest expression and values differing views?

 

In the face of ANY disagreement, you can deepen your awareness by turning your attention to:

  • Intention
  • Inner coach
  • Empathic, conscious communication
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How to Work with Resistance

[fa icon="calendar'] Feb 1, 2018 11:20:07 PM / by Dale Allen posted in Confidence, Leadership, Influence

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How to Get Over a Mistake

[fa icon="calendar'] Jan 24, 2018 1:05:49 PM / by Dale Allen posted in Conflict, Leadership, Influence

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If we are supposed to learn from our mistakes, why are we so afraid to make them?

 

Has anyone ever misinterpreted or misunderstood what you said or intended? Have you ever misunderstood what someone meant and then reacted to? We make mistakes every day, large and small, from epic fails to minor faux pas: deadlines will be missed, a tone of voice will hurt, you will deliver something and your boss will not be pleased, your kids will think you’re a bad parent.

 

We’re cheap. We don’t want to pay the emotional and performance costs of how mistakes are handled.

 

Click the image to save and print the tool. Start bouncing back from mistakes now!


 

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3 Steps to Creating (Conflict) Resolutions in the Workplace and Beyond

[fa icon="calendar'] Jan 10, 2018 1:08:07 PM / by Trevor Stevenson posted in Conflict, Leadership, Influence

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While we often resolve to do something more, better, different at the beginning of a year, we rarely take the time to consider the conflicts that these resolutions create, and how we’ll deal with them.

 

Eating healthier, being more active, and saving more money continue to top the personal commitment list. At work, reaching team goals, being less stressed and having greater engagement might top your to-dos. A common statistic is that about 8% of people maintain and are successful in their resolutions. So what gets in the way? Conflict!

Do you recognize any of the following goals and conflicts?

 

Personal Goals and Conflicts

 

Goal: Eat healthier

Conflicts: healthy food wasn’t bought/prepped, late for work, the whole team was going out for lunch/dinner, I loooove chocolate, I can get a Big Mac meal for less than a bunch of organic kale, etc.

 

Goal: Become more active

Conflicts: gym’s too busy, too damn cold outside, I don’t like sweating, don’t have the right equipment, too tired, my ass looks fat/skinny in these jeans, etc.

 

Goal: Save more money

Conflicts: investing is too confusing, prices keep going up, “too good to pass up” sales are calling my name, cheaper by the dozen, I need my Starbucks, I’ll save more when I start making more, etc.

 

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Raise a Little Hell To Get What You Want

[fa icon="calendar'] Nov 24, 2017 9:37:00 AM / by Trevor Stevenson posted in Confidence, Leadership, Influence

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Changing Perspective Changes Results

[fa icon="calendar'] Oct 24, 2017 8:16:57 AM / by Dale Allen posted in Conflict, Leadership

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Reframing... sometimes we just need to see things differently. 
 
Reframing is seeing a situation from a different perspective. It can be really helpful in problem solving and in conflictual situations where you want to move from a stuck place. At times when you're feeling confused, puzzled, or you have a big decision to make, reframing can be amazing and it also really then helps in learning.
 
There are times when I'm working with someone and they consider themselves stuck, where they have thoughts that they are recycling or   behaviours  which are related to thoughts that they are recycling, and they want to move forward. 

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3 Steps to Manage Feeling Stretched and Stressed

[fa icon="calendar'] Oct 4, 2017 7:00:00 AM / by Trevor Stevenson posted in Confidence, Leadership, Influence

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Have you ever felt stretched and stressed? Of course you have, as we all experience these responses in our life. Fortunately, we have some control over the feeling of being stretched…and thankfully we have TOTAL control over feeling stressed.


Can we totally control stress?

 

I know it may not seem like we can control stress, but we can. Stress can come and go in moments or it can feel more constant. Every day we have a list of goals to accomplish as well as a list of non negotiable personal tasks and commitments. I wrote this article to help you reduce that feeling of stress and anxiety with all of our competing priorities. Whether you are a senior executive or manager, a soccer coach, an entrepreneur, a mom, a dad, or a student, we all have competing priorities and a seemingly endless to do list.

 

So how do we do get it all done?

 

I'm a real work-hard, play-hard believer. The challenge is that I'm also an all-or-nothing kind of guy. Because of this natural tendency, there have been times when I get into work mode and I'm head down with blinders on. Whether it's in my business or at my house, I can find myself so deep into what I am accomplishing that someone has to come and pull me out. In these episodes I won't eat, and I ignore my own needs and the needs of those around me. And transversely on the play side, I'm all or nothing as well. If I'm travelling, biking, snowboarding or just out for a weekend with friends, I completely forget about work. Forgetting about work is actually a wonderful thing, unless it goes on too long and there are goals and objectives that aren't being met that I've committed to.

 

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