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Are you spinning?

[fa icon="calendar'] Jul 26, 2017 7:00:00 AM / by Trevor Stevenson posted in Conflict, Confidence, Leadership, Relationships

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As we work with leaders in various roles and types of organizations, one theme that we encounter across the leadership landscape is guilt. Leaders are often trapped by feelings of guilt. You can likely relate to experiences like this:

 

  • You need to talk to a staff member about missing too much time at work, but you feel guilty because you know the staff member is going through a difficult time at home.
  • You must address a performance issue with a team member who is failing to complete a project on time, but you think that you are at least partly to blame for not providing enough oversight and follow-up.
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The Pillars of Conscious Communication

[fa icon="calendar'] Jul 19, 2017 7:00:00 AM / by Dale Allen posted in Confidence, Leadership, Relationships

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To help our clients, The Leadership Group developed the following Pillars of Conscious Communication. Use these tools to transform your relationship with yourself and with others
 

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It’s All in Your Head: Workplace Stress and the Brain’s Drain

[fa icon="calendar'] Jul 12, 2017 7:00:00 AM / by Trevor Stevenson posted in Leadership, Influence

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Modern neuroscience tells us a great deal about how the human brain functions in specific situations and environments. One of the most enlightening things that neuroscience has to teach organizational leaders is that the brain literally does not differentiate between an emotional and a physical threat.

 

Experienced leaders and managers likely realize that illness-related absences increase in stressful work situations. For those of us who were raised in the “old school” industrial-style of management and leadership, we might be tempted to tell employees to suck it up, to get over it and get back to work. We might suspect that complaints of illness are excuses to avoid difficult situations rather than dealing with them.

 

And you know what? That’s kind of true. Stress-related illness really is all in one’s head.

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Minimize Conflict and Disagreement Blues by Deepening Your Awareness

[fa icon="calendar'] Jul 5, 2017 7:00:00 AM / by Dale Allen posted in Conflict, Confidence, Relationships

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I admit, I don't really want to minimize conflict. I know conflicts and disagreements are going to happen. You know what I really want? I want to minimize those all-to-familiar anxious feelings that arise in me when I am in conflict. Here's what has helped:

In the midst of disagreement, it is possible to create an environment where  blame, shame, guilt and fear is minimized. If we can do this, we can ensure the following:

 

  • Flow of conversation is maintained
  • Defensiveness is minimized (yours and theirs)
  • Power is shared
  • Hearts and minds stay open
  • Everyone ‘feels’ heard
  • Others have a desire to contribute to our needs
  • Our needs are met, at less cost
  • We attend to the work or what we want to accomplish

 

How can we do this? We can do this by deepening our awareness. What is blocking you from creating an agreement with those who don’t see your point of view? It is time to raise your consciousness about how your internal conversations are leading you to view things in a certain way. It is time to communicate in a way that fosters agreement, understanding, listening, honest expression and values differing views.

 

In the face of ANY disagreement, you can deepen your awareness by turning your attention to:

  • Intention
  • Inner coach
  • Empathic, conscious communication
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Who wants to learn 'how to have difficult conversations?'

[fa icon="calendar'] Jun 28, 2017 7:00:00 AM / by Trevor Stevenson posted in Conflict, Confidence, Leadership, Influence, Relationships

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This is something I hear often yet no one really wants to know how to have DIFFICULT conversations. We want to minimize the difficult part.

So..You know WHAT to say—but HOW will you say it?

When giving some tough news i.e. reorginization or layoffs at work or wanting to speak with family members or friends during some rough patches, we are often looking for some words to guide the conversation(s) we are about to have. 

Many of our executive clients and managers are given scripts at work, as a guide and they tell us those scripts provide an element of predictability that can feel comforting.

Yet, some of the leaders we work with review their scripts or practice conversations with us with a growing sense of unease, overwhelm and apprehension. Why?

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Using the Transformational Power of Conscious Communication to Elevate Your Impact

[fa icon="calendar'] Jun 21, 2017 7:00:00 AM / by Dale Allen posted in Conflict

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We have all bumped up against human nature. Despite our sincere desire to have a positive impact on the world around us, we have all experienced disagreements, differences of opinions and disappointments, which in turn lead to frustrations, doubt, mistrust and stuck-ness in our situations or relationships.

 

Since 2004, in my role as a leadership strategist, I have been honoured to work with thousands of different people. I have found that most, like me, strive for three goals:

 

  1. To leave a place better than they found it
  2. To leave people feeling better for having worked together
  3. To engage in collaboration with an emphasis on trust, honour and integrity

 

More and more, I am meeting people who aspire to this intention. To me, that means a ‘hope for better’ is spreading. We can continue to have a meaningful impact by simply interacting with the above-mentioned intended goals. We need to speak, listen and act meaningfully.

  

Some variation of the 3 value goals above can be achieved even in the most confrontational of situations, but it does require an attitude shift. Instead of dwelling on the confrontational aspects of a situation, we need to stay focused on a conscious way of leading.

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Why Making Things Happen is Harder Than it Sounds

[fa icon="calendar'] Jun 14, 2017 7:00:00 AM / by Trevor Stevenson posted in Confidence, Leadership, Influence

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“Change your thoughts and you change your world.”
– Norman Vincent Peale

 

In any given workday, anyone in a leadership role needs to get things done (manage tasks and advance projects) and make things happen (lead others to achieve results). Yet anyone experienced working within an organization will know that often accomplishing these two deliverables can seem impossible. Why are some leaders able to advance projects while others seem to meet barrier after barrier? Why are some staff members productive while others stall and fail?

Whatever the underlying reasons for a lack of productivity in the workplace, neuroscience provides us with knowledge that we can use to make things happen in nearly any situation. In this post we’ll focus on CHANGE, because when the existing state of affairs is not getting results, change is required.

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3 Conscious Communication Strategies to Reclaim Your Time

[fa icon="calendar'] Jun 7, 2017 7:00:00 AM / by Dale Allen posted in Confidence, Leadership, Influence

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Let’s control our energy and how we experience the time we use.

 

Purpose

 

  • To remove the guilt and anxiousness associated with time pressure
  • To raise awareness of how you can better enjoy the time you have
  • To shift perspective, the LENS you currently look through, regarding your time use
  • To practice a more conscious way of feeling more productive

 

Innerwork

 

When it comes to how you use your time, shift from time management to energy management by listening to your inner voice that might be feeling anxious and fragmented by all the to-dos. Adjust your lens to align with the reality of what you can control and learn a language to quiet that inner voice and prevent it from fuelling anxiety and frantic ways of working and leading.

 

  • Conscious communication is a beautiful way to manage your energy
  • Listen to the narrative of your inner voice during these times of stress
  • Learn from what you hear
  • Use a language to adjust your inner critic's thoughts to reduce the emotional reactions and perception of being time poor

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When the Afternoon Slump is begging you to sleep, try this.

[fa icon="calendar'] May 31, 2017 7:00:00 AM / by Trevor Stevenson posted in Confidence, Leadership

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We’ve all been there.

It’s Thursday afternoon, and it seems like something as simple as an incoming email could break the camel’s back and send you into a downward spiral of fatigue and frustration. The computer screen fades in and out of focus, and although it’s the only thing you’ve been looking at for the past 6 hours, it’s the last thing in the world that you want to think about right now.

But there’s work to do! How are you going to drag yourself out of this slump? This post calls for your attention through a simple brain shift. Your mind, body and productive self will thank you.

 

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Are you a Game Changer?

[fa icon="calendar'] May 24, 2017 7:00:00 AM / by Dale Allen posted in Confidence, Influence

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It's so easy to be busy.  Everyone is busy. If you want to change the "I'm (too) busy" game and the stress and overwhelm that comes along for the ride, try these 4 mind-lessfull tips:

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